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In recent years, modern life, industry, and cities have brought changes to African marriages and to the roles of men and women, yet a disturbing circumstances still play a rule in certain norms.
Bride price and some other expensive marital expenses in Africa, is one among those ancient norms that has disproved the rules of certain natural designs. As an African, in need of a new family, you must wake up to that fact that you are not marrying only but your partner; the whole family is involved-how do you feel when you are ill-treated on he course of your early marital engagements? Some have used this reason to break from the family immediately after the payment of dowry.
They said ‘no design is permanent but the silence on the side of this potential grooms’ is a sounding gong that announces the existence of doubt in the heart of many concerned citizens. If you have ever witnesses a marriage negotiation in a typical African setting, your doubts would be minimal, on whether you are affected not.
Marriages in Africa have lots of things in common-they always have something to do with the payment of dowry (either in cash or in kind) from the groom or his family to the bride's family. The exchange is both real and symbolic and to some, it is very necessary that every new couple must seek the blessing of the family but from several angles, these blessings are seen as very necessary for any successful marriages. Despite their sands, I still don’t buy the ideas of placing the sovereignty and basing a successful marriage on the parental blessings, because even the best of wines get sour, sometimes.
The big question is whether or not, the bride, in any way has a means of influencing some of these harsh judgments? If that is the case, what are the real means through which they can come about this?
What do you ave to say about this?
SWe need cultural reform in some of our cultural dimensions,but the poster sounded harsh on oarents also. If paying of children's school fees is a parental responsibility, collecting huge dowries shoul also be
ReplyDeleteI have witnessed a marriage demand that forced a man sell HIS shop in Igbo land
ReplyDeleteVery interesting move mr. Poster. We have almost the worste kind of marriage regulations in the wolrd, but it all depends on individual faimilies nd believes
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