There is no gain asking if your heart has ever been broken before, because that may have a connection with why you decided to read this.
Though a lot of breakups happen differently, a lot of guys tend to come up with reasons that look alike.Think about this for a moment; was is it all about what the guy did?..can it be? Of course, this does not relate with every instance of divorce or breakup,rather does it apply to every woman but I keep wondering.
Read all these suggested reasons why you may be left out with a broken heart again.
1. Avoid Distraction.
Sometimes, women listen to their friends more than they should concentrate in
the relationship, paving ways for comparison and other attitudinal
inconsistencies. When your mind is divided over what others have or do in their own circle, you may end up ruining the good communication that you have already created. Try as much as possible to avoid external distraction like gossips.
2. Try to be independent
It is truly lovely to believe that men should have more quota in a typical African setting but the trend must be separated form the culture. yes! It sounds like we can make up our mind on 'fifty: twenty' but there must be a balance. Convince your heart that there is a place in his life that you can fit in.
Just image that you go to a guy for everything that you need. What do you think about your decision making mechanisms. Will they function properly again., What I am saying is that you will have no other power to make decisions on your own, in as much as you keep depending. This applies to any kind of relationship.
3. What about being too Independent?
Some say it is just great.
Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. If you keep telling or showing a man that you can do all things on your own, what else do you need from him?
4. Listen To Him
You may not know that great difference exists between obedience, submission and just listening. All the we demand for now, is listening while he is airing his views. It was reported that over 40 % divorce or breakups in the united state is associated with poor communication of this sort. When your man says, please give him a complete, if possible, a perfect chance. Listen to what he says, even if he seems he has nothing good to say; you may be influencing him but the good news it that he always has an opinion.
5. Separate The Relationships
It is not your family affair. You must learn to put things that happen in that relationship very private, unless it requires counselling or help. If you must tell your mother or sister everything or argument that arises in your relationship you must be ready for the worst. If you are mature enough to keep what happens between you, just between you, and disagreement that you had, then start thinking of a better home.
6. Learn To Treat The Past
There is no future in the past and you are obliged to understand that is hurts you most, when you try to change them. We've all made mistakes. Please learn from
the past and never live on them. There is a saying that 'where you will go will be a product of where you are to day'. If you keep living with (in) the feeling that you did something bad or that someone did something wrong, how can you grow? Forgive more often and always watch the difference.
7. What About His Friends?
Yes! Someone said interesting. Though his friends may not be your friends, you must not dog them out. He has been with them before he met you. Some of them may not be good friends but he knew them already-you don't have to remind him of that. If you must keep showing negative feeling, all you may end up displaying
will be insecurity and, in a more subtle way, expressing a lack of trust. All is needed from you is suggestion, not condemnation.
I know that I can never provide a complete list to this broad topic; do you think there is something else to add? See the comment section below
I loved the way you compared the dependency and Independence. There must be a balance in every relationship and the earlier we understand this, the better for us. Say no to #Someafrican Mentalities
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